The catch 22 about turning 40, physically things start to shift a bit, mentally and spiritually you become stronger!!!! It’s like a cruel joke!! Do I feel better physically than I did at 20? Maybe an unfair question because I was a party girl so being hung over was a common occurrence, however if I even tried to party now like I did in my 20’s it would take a month to recover if not put me in the hospital!! Mentally and spiritually in my 20’s, awwww boy it was all about picking the wrong men, worrying about what others thought and trying to make everyone around me happy….just thinking about it makes me exhausted! Once the 30’s hit it has been a journey of self discovery, and not an easy one! It takes a lot of effort and hard work to heal from your past, something not a lot of people are willing to do so I am super proud of myself for that! I am also excited for the growth I will continue to accomplish, it’s something I think we as humans continue or should continue to do until the day we die.

Regrets??? You know when I was younger I spent a lot of time thinking about those but as I have aged I have learned I really don’t believe in them, spending too much time on could of’s and should of’s will only make you crazy because the past has happened so no matter how many times you go there no matter how many times you play it in your head… it is done. The only thing you can do is learn from it and to me that is more important than regrets. I prefer to look at something in the past and acknowledge well maybe it was not my most shining moment, or you know if ever faced with that again here is how I will do it differently….sitting around regretting only takes away from what you have right now and what is yet to come. I am also a big believer that each circumstance good or bad as brought you to where you are now and if you like where you are now, fantastic, if not the beauty is you can change it!! You are also who you are because of the journey life has brought you on.

You hear some people say something magical happens when you turn 40, others say it’s just another day. I am starting to believe it’s everything I have done and not done up to this point that will decide how I feel on January 17th!! And just like in my 20’s and 30’s the things I liked about myself I just improved upon and the things that I didn’t much care for I worked on changing, and the things I had done were analyzed to figure out do I keep doing them and things I had not done I either did or figured out if it was truly what I wanted. This is how I see my 40’s I will just be that much more equipped and ahead of the game with what I learned the last 20 years!! And that is Wonderful!