I was chatting with a good friend who had recently been let down by another friend and was pretty upset by it, naturally of course. It got us talking about friendships and how yes at some point you will let each other down that is natural as well and you just have to decide if what you were let down with is something you can just move on from and it won’t hurt the friendship. It also got us talking about the one way friendships that surprise you, you know the ones where you are someone your friend can totally rely on in times of need but when you need them you find out how you can’t rely on them in the same way or  when they do something for you it’s because they expect something in return, what is this a barter friendship??!!!!

We realized that at some point with all the people a person considers a friend you are lucky if you can count on 5 fingers the ones that truly have your back with no agenda, you don’t even question their loyalty or reliability you know you can call them last minute in a time of need and they will make it happen to be there for you.  And you also know that neither one of you takes advantage of that so when asked you know it’s the real deal.  And counting on more than 5 fingers the number of true friendships is a total blessing! My friend felt she was in that place where she knows she will go above and beyond for her friends because that is just how she is and she doesn’t do it expecting anything in return but should she keep putting herself out there for friends that she knows she can’t count on to do the same??? That’s the answer to the question, you must stay true to who you are meaning just because someone else won’t go above and beyond you are the type of person that does because that’s who you are, however you can choose who you want to spend that energy on.

Sometimes we find ourselves chasing around those friends who will never know what it is to be a friend and in the meantime we miss out on the friends who are true and real and ready to be here for you. Great friendships that add to your life and not take away from it, those are Wonderful!