YOUNG MARRIAGE

Back in the day getting married at 19 or 20 was commonplace, now a days not so much. However of course it does still happen and when it happens to someone you are close with it can cause you to worry about that person. I experienced this a few years ago with one of my nieces. Everything you dream for them to experience when they are young doesn’t include marriage. If they are going to college, you see them enjoying everything that the college experience has to offer, parties, long nights studying, Spring break trips with your friends, bonding with your friends, having the dating experience. So when you find out that they are getting married and forgoing all the experiences of being young and single, you worry and worry a lot!! For my niece so far so good, her and her husband communicate, are attentive to each other’s needs, and make sure they are enjoying their young years. So far they are growing up together, as opposed to growing apart. I am reminded of this because someone I know is going thru this with a  family member and everyone in the family is freaking out that they are way to young to be getting married, they don’t know what they want yet, let alone don’t know who they are yet. All these thoughts I can relate to, this is what my family and I were thinking as well. But you know what, there are folks in their late 20’s, 30’s and 40’s that are still immature when it comes to relationships. I encouraged my friend to not so much concentrate on their age but their maturity level, they might be more mature about relationships then they are given credit for, a certain age does not mean you are ready for marriage or has what it takes to make a marriage work. Yes with age comes experience and I think that is where one starts to get worried for the young person getting married, is their lack of experience. However I have met many a young person and have been blown away at how mature they were and how confident they were. If you as well are dealing with this, look at the relationship and how strong it is and how well they communicate and how well they understand what being a team is and  being each others safe place, don’t assume because they are young they aren’t ready like I said older folks get married all the time and they aren’t ready either!! Once you get over your worry show them your support and love and that will help this to be A Wonderful Life!!